When we extend forgiveness to the person who has wronged us, it can help them forgive themselves, argues North (1998) as the wrongdoer is able to say to themselves, “I can forgive myself now because you have forgiven me. In your eyes I am worthy, and I accept and adopt your perspective when I look at myself. If you can find it in yourself to give me this gift, then I must try to see myself as worthy of accepting it” (p. 33).
North, J. (1998). The “ideal” of forgiveness: A philosopher’s exploration. In R. D. Enright & J. North (Eds.), Exploring forgiveness. (pp. 15-34). Madison, WI US: University of Wisconsin Press.